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STEP 9. STEWARD all of my life for God’s glory.

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

 “God has shown me great grace; grace greater than my anger. I am learning what it means to live out of my new identity in Christ. That has pushed me to ask the question, ‘How can I be a conduit of God’s grace to others?’ As I have sought God, examined my life, and consulted with fellow believers, I believe this [describe] is what it looks like for me to steward God’s grace now.”

Equip Seminars -Anger Pt9 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

Memorize: James 3:16-18 (ESV), “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “Wisdom” – Overcoming anger is more about applied wisdom than emotional control.
• “First” – Overcoming anger is able to maintain focus on matters of first importance in a “crisis.”
• “Harvest” – Hopefully you can now begin to look to the future without a sense of dread.
• “Sown in peace” – Anger sows in the stress of thinking, “Everything depends upon me.”
• “Those who make peace” – Let the thought of being a “peace-producer” permeate your identity.

 Teaching Notes

To “steward” something means to use it for God’s intended purpose. It is important to remember that what is being stewarded is your life, not the merely the experience of overcoming sinful anger. To think otherwise would be to define yourself by your struggle again.

Anger has prevented you from using particular gifts, talents, or passions for God’s glory. Anger has thwarted your ability to fulfill a life role (i.e, spouse, parent, worker, church member, etc…) the way God intended. As anger dissipates, do not neglect giving yourself fully to those roles in which God has placed you.

Sin is a parasite that lives off of stolen resources (time, energy, love, etc…) that were intended for other purposes. As we rid ourselves of this vile intruder, those resources upon which sin once indulged become available for God’s design and our true enjoyment. Ultimately, stewardship is the pinnacle where purpose, worship, and joy meet.

Unless we are convinced of this truth, we will return to our sin as the “good life” and grow dissatisfied with serving God out of a sense of duty. Stewardship is not how we “pay God back” for our sin, but how we live in the fullness for which we were created.

STEP 8. PERSEVERE in the new life and identity to which God has called me.

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

“I can see God’s faithfulness over the last [time since beginning this material]. As I have experienced victory, my temptation has changed [describe] and my ability to focus on God in non-crisis times has been stretched [examples]. I have come to realize that ‘healthy’ means more than the absence of sinful anger. God has an entirely different agenda for my life [explain] than what I knew. I am learning to enjoy it and be comfortable in it.”

Equip Seminars – Anger Pt8 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

Memorize: 2 Timothy 2:24-25 (ESV), “And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “The Lord’s servant” – Is this becoming the predominant identity clause that orients your life?
• “Must” – This list of attributes is to define those who call themselves servants of God.
• “Opponents” – The application point of this verse is primarily those who oppose you.
• “God may” – These responses are possible when we recognize that only God changes people.
• “Repentance” – Hopefully you now view this as a good word that would be a blessing to yourself and others.

 Teaching Notes

“True strength in God’s eyes means victory over one’s temper more than one’s enemies (p. 85).” Robert Jones in Uprooting Anger

“The Bible links hope in God with a willingness to wait. To wait is to have confidence that God will bring justice. He will satisfy the depth of our desire, but in his time and not ours (p. 140).” Justin & Lindsey Holcomb in Rid of My Disgrace

“God has designed our relationships to function as both a diagnosis and a cure. When we are frustrated and ready to give up, God is at work, revealing the places where we have given in to a selfish agenda (the diagnosis). He then uses that new awareness to help us grow precisely where we have struggled (the cure) (p. 48-49).” Tim Lane & Paul Tripp in Relationships: A Mess Worth Making

“Mercy is my commitment to live alongside you in this broken world even though I will suffer with you, for you, and because of you (p. 137)… Mercy understands that grace is a better pathway to change than condemnation, but it never compromises what is morally right and true (p. 139).” Tim Lane & Paul Tripp in Relationships: A Mess Worth Making

STEP 7. IMPLEMENT the new structure with humility and flexibility.

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

“Plans are easier than life. They exist outside my sinful heart and broken world. Trying to live out my plan has taught me more about my self, my sin, and my Savior. As I have had victory, the old expressions of sin have taken new forms. I have had to remember that my plans are merely how I intend to rely on God and not, themselves, my deliverer. Here are the unexpected challenges I faced [list], how I failed [list], where I succeeded [list], what I learned [list], and how God was faithful [list]. I now see that [list] is really the most important part of my plan.”

Equip Seminars – Anger Pt7 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

The PDF implementation evaluation tool from chapter 7 — Plan Eval Form

Memorize: Luke 6:27-31 (ESV), “But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. To the one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak, do not withhold your tunic either. Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back. And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “You who hear” – These are hard words and difficult teachings. Will you hear them or return to anger?
• “Love your enemies” – Through the lens of anger, everyone becomes an enemy. Will you love?
• “Curse… strike… take” – Godly anger will always be expressed in the context of real evil.
• “Give” – Godly anger will cost you. You probably began this study for your relief. Will you continue?
• “As you wish… do so” – Again we see that the skill level expression of overcoming anger is not complex.

 Teaching Notes

“Patience is the evidence of an inner strength. Impatient people are weak, and therefore dependant on external supports—like schedules that go just right and circumstances that support their fragile hearts (p. 173).” John Piper in Future Grace

“Self-control is the ability to consistently make wise decisions and fulfill responsibilities on the basis of God’s Word rather than on the basis of one’s feelings (p. 51).” Lou Priolo in Getting a Grip

“Godly anger does not need to ‘win…’ Its purposes are more modest on the surface, but more extravagant under the surface: the glory of God and the eternal well-being of God’s people (p. 53).” David Powlison in “Understanding Anger: Part 1” in JBC (Fall 1995).

“Here [on earth] walked the Lord of glory with His own creatures. Every human being that Jesus met owed Him life and utter loyalty. He is YHWH, to whom temple sacrifices were offered in repentance and gratitude. Yet most of these people ignored Jesus, misunderstood Him, tried to use Him, reviled Him, plotted against Him (p. 38)… Jesus dealt gently with the ignorant and misguided, even when He suffered at their hands (p. 39).” David Powlison in “Getting to the Heart of Conflict: Anger, Part 3” in JBC (Fall 1997).

STEP 6. RESTRUCTURE MY LIFE to rely on God’s grace and Word to transform my life.

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

“I have learned a great deal about my self [list with examples], my sin [list examples], and my Savior [list with examples]. Because of these truths I want and need to make the following changes [list]. My temptation is to see these things as ‘what I do’ rather than merely cooperating with and celebrating God’s grace in my life.”

Equip Seminars – Anger Pt6 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

The PDF life restructuring tool from chapter 6 — Life Restructuring Plan

Memorize: Ephesians 4:29-32 (ESV), “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “No corrupting talk” – Your standard of speech is that your words should never tear others down.
• “Only… building up” – Your words should strive to cooperate with God’s activity in the life of others.
• “Grieve the Holy Spirit” – As a Christian your words always serve as an ambassador for God.
• “Put away” – The goal is not to merely tame the tongue but remove these traits from your life.
• “Forgave you” –You undertake this effort as a forgiven, redeemed, and indwelt child of God.

 Teaching Notes

“It would be impossible for a moral being to stand in the presence of perceived wrong indifferent and unmoved (p. 107).” B.B. Warfield in “The Emotional Life of Our Lord” from The Person and Work of Christ.

“The wise and foolish are distinguishable by how they get angry (p. 43)… Jesus did not live a calm life; He cared too much (p. 48).” David Powlison in “Understanding Anger: Part 1” in JBC (Fall 1995).

“Changes in location, situation, education, training, exercise, or the nature of the relationship will not solve the problem. The tongue is humanly untameable! It is a powerful, restless evil that leaves all of us confounded (p. 37).” Paul Tripp in War of Words

“Anger must be directed toward destroying the problem, not toward destroying the person.” Jay Adams in What Do You Do When Anger Gets the Upper Hand? (brochure)

STEP 5. CONFESS TO THOSE AFFECTED for harm done and seek to make amends.

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

“I have not represented God well in your presence. [List] You have been hurt by my un-God-like actions, attitudes, and beliefs. [List] My goal in life is to make God’s character of love known. That starts with this request for forgiveness. I value our relationship more than my pride. I am currently working on submitting my life to God’s control and understand if you need time to consider my request for forgiveness.”

Equip Seminar – Anger Pt5 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

The PDF anger confession guide from chapter 5 — Confession Guide

Memorize: Matthew 7:1-5 (ESV), “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “Measure you use” – What is the standard of your anger?
• “Speck” – How does the offense against you now compare to the offense of your sin against God?
• “Do not notice” – Anger captures our attention and focuses it on the problems of life.
• “First” – This is both considering our sin first in order (before confrontation) and importance.
• “See clearly” – Until we prioritize confessing our sin, we suffer from moral vision impairment.

 Teaching Notes

“One of the sure signs that we have not really understood the gospel is when we continue to be afraid of, discouraged by, and unwilling to accept our weakness (p. 130).” Paul Tripp in War of Words

“Sin demands to have a man by himself. It withdraws him from community. The more isolated a person is, the more destructive will be the power of the sin over him, and the more deeply he becomes involved in it, the more disastrous is his isolation. Sin wants to remain unknown. It shuns the light… It is a hard struggle until sin is openly admitted. But God breaks gates of brass and bars of iron (Psalm 107:16). Since the confession of sin is made in the presence of a Christian brother, the last stronghold of self-justification is abandoned (p. 112).” Dietrich Bonhoeffer in Life Together

“When god-players admit the truth, they find amazing grace in Jesus: forgiveness, mercy, sanity, a fresh start, cleansing, power, freedom (p. 37)… I’ve noticed that when people repent of sinful anger they become able to discuss their own sins accurately – after all, such sins now exist in the light of Christ’s grace and will be progressively destroyed by grace (p. 40).” David Powlison in “Getting to the Heart of Conflict: Anger, Part 3” in JBC (Fall 1997).

“If I can hurt another by speaking faithfully without much preparation of spirit, and without hurting myself far more than I hurt that other, then I know nothing of Calvary love.” Amy Carmichael in If

STEP 4. REPENT TO GOD for how my sin replaced and misrepresented Him.

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

“My anger is a counterfeit god mocking my Savior. I am beginning to see how offensive my anger is to God and how much pride I express trying to be/replace God. I repent not merely because my anger hurts other people or disrupts my life, but because God is superior to my anger and lovingly enables me to love Him (I John 4:19).”

Equip Seminars – Anger Pt4 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

Memorize: Acts 3:19-20 (ESV), “Repent, therefore, and turn again, that your sins may be blotted out, that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord, and that he may send the Christ appointed for you, Jesus.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “Repent” – This is the universal call of God for every person who sins. Do not hear it as a shame tactic.
• “Turn again” – If you have never surrendered your life to Christ the first time, talk to your group leader.
• “Times of refreshing” – Repentance is the only way to the lasting joy and peace you seek.
• “Presence of the Lord” – God desires for you to be near to Him. You are not approaching unwelcomed.
• “Appointed for you” – Jesus Christ was sent for you to do what you’ve been trying to do on your own.

 Teaching Notes

“Warmaking is a prime trait of sinners. It’s the image of Satan: liar, murderer, divider, aggressor (p. 32)… In this we become like the Devil himself (no surprise that the Devil is mentioned in James 3:15 and 4:7). We act exactly like the adversary who seeks to usurp God’s throne and who acts as the accuser of the brethren (p. 34)… But the angry person plays god, and in so doing plays the Devil, rather than letting God be God, and so embracing the Redeemer’s agenda (p. 41).” David Powlison in “Getting to the Heart of Conflict: Anger, Part 3” in JBC (Fall 1997).

“At the Fall, the God who is to be loved, obeyed, and served became the scapegoat for the sins of his people (p. 24)… To the degree that you have based your life on something other than the Lord, to that degree God’s love and the hope of the gospel will not comfort you (p. 98).” Paul Tripp in War of Words

“James’s answer for angry hearts is not ‘how-to’ but “Whom-to’: we must go to God himself (p. 64)… Then repent, not of the desire itself, but of the rulingness of the desire, of the way you have been letting it control your heart (p. 71).” Robert Jones in Uprooting Anger

“The Good News is always presented in terms of how love and anger come to be resolved. God expresses His love for His people by each of the three ways He expresses His anger at wrong… First, in love, the anger your sin deserved fell on Jesus… Second, in love, God’s anger works to disarm the power of your sin… Third, in love, God’s anger will deliver you from the pain of other’s sins (p. 41).” David Powlison in “Understanding Anger: Part 1” in JBC (Fall 1995).

Step 3: UNDERSTAND the origin, motive, and history of my sin.

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

“I do not know all I need to know about myself or my struggle with anger. I do know that my heart resists being known (Jeremiah 17:9), and that anger reveals the things that are most important to me (Luke 6:45). I am coming to realize that [list] desires lead me to sinful anger, and that [list] experiences have contributed to the strength of those desires. I believe God is more satisfying than those desires could ever be without Him.”

Equip Seminar – Anger Pt3 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

The PDF anger journal from chapter 3 — Overcoming Anger Journal

Memorize: Proverbs 14:29-30 (ESV), “Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly. A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “Whoever” – You are not excluded from this passage. Your anger hasn’t made you unreachable.
• “Slow to anger” – Anger is a rushed emotion. To gain understanding you must slow down.
• “Exalts folly” – Anger imposes its false distorted beliefs on others and punishes them for not agreeing.
• “A tranquil heart” – Godly emotions stem from a heart that is resting and relying upon God.
• “Bones rot” – Stewing on anger, grumbling, and bitterness is physically unhealthy and miserable.

 Teaching Notes

“Understanding ourselves doesn’t simply mean getting in touch with our feelings. It also involves becoming aware of the thoughts behind the feelings and recognizing the lies we tell ourselves that feel so true (p. 87).” Leslie Vernick in The Emotionally Destructive Relationship

“Our desire battles for control until it becomes a demand. The demand is then expressed (and usually experienced) as a need. My sense of need sets up my expectation. Expectation when unfulfilled leads to disappointment. Disappointment leads to some kind of punishment (p. 59).” Paul Tripp in War of Words

“Good desires easily become bad masters (p. 104)… To receive God’s forgiving grace, you must own your anger. God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. We must not blame past or present circumstances (p. 70).” Robert Jones in Uprooting Anger

“Talk is not cheap because interpretation is not cheap. The way we interpret life determines how we will respond to it (p. 15)… You and I do not respond to people or circumstances of our lives on the basis of facts. Our responses are based upon the way we interpret those facts (p. 21)… What is wrong is not just vocabulary and tone of voice, but a way of looking at life that does not agree with what God says is right and true (p. 22).” Paul Tripp in War of Words

STEP 2: ACKNOWLEDGE the breadth and impact of my sin.

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

“I am beginning to see the extent and impact of my anger. It is bigger than I wanted to admit [describe] and still may be bigger than I realize. Apart from God’s grace, I am an angry person. I acknowledge that there is no safety and no freedom in minimizing my anger [describe]. Before I can truly understand the greatness of Jesus I must acknowledge what His death and resurrection has conquered on my behalf and in my life.”

Equip Seminar – Anger Pt2 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

Memorize: Luke 6:43-45 (ESV), “For no good tree bears bad fruit, nor again does a bad tree bear good fruit, for each tree is known by its own fruit. For figs are not gathered from thorn bushes, nor are grapes picked from a bramble bush. The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “For no” – This is not a principle for which Jesus leaves room for exceptions.
• “Each tree” – There is no comparative scoring between trees. Each tree is known by “its own fruit.”
• “Not gathered” – Fruit does not lie. It is futile to argue with what our lives produce.
• “Heart” – Our words reveal our true priorities, values, agendas, and allegiances.
• “Abundance” – Our heart does not produce things in small amounts. Heart change will be large scale.

Teaching Notes

“The longer anger consumes you, the harder it is to let go of the pride that comes with it. You feel justified (p. 126).” Justin & Lindsey Holcomb in Rid of My Disgrace

“Sin attaches to intention, memory, thought speech, intelligent action – to all the special features of personhood – and transforms them into weapons (p. 76).” Cornelius Plantinga, Jr. in Not the Way It’s Supposed to Be

“Our bigger problem is denial or blindness, inability or refusal to see or take personal responsibility for our habitual or repetitive sins. The biblical term is hardness of heart (p. 88).” Leslie Vernick in The Emotionally Destructive Relationship

“Our anger is our whole-personed active response of negative moral judgment against perceived evil (p. 15).” Robert Jones in Uprooting Anger

“No doubt, these colorful descriptions do capture how anger feels. But a metaphor is not meant to overpower the thing it intends to illustrate… The ‘burning’ metaphor graphically captures the sensation of anger and its effects, but it’s not intended to cancel out the fact that anger is something people do (p. 12).” David Powlison in “Anger Part 2: Three Lies About Anger and the Transforming Truth” in JBC (Winter 1996).

Step One: ADMIT I have a struggle I cannot overcome without God

Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar of The Summit Church (Durham, NC). For the various counseling options available from this material visit www.summitrdu.com/counseling.

NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling.

 “Not overcoming my sinful anger would be more costly than anything God would take me through in the pursuit of His freedom. God is good for having brought me to this point of admitting my sin.”

Equip Seminar – Anger Pt1 from The Summit Church on Vimeo.

The PDF anger self-assessment from chapter 1 — Overcoming Anger Evaluation

Memorize: James 1:19-21 (ESV), “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

• “Beloved” – God cares immensely for those who struggle with anger.
• “Every person” – Self-control is not a punishment or extra task God is placing upon you.
• “Quick to hear” – The opposite of anger is genuine concern for others and compassion.
• “Does not produce” – Regardless of the immediate response you get, anger does not “work.”
• “Put away all” – Your goal is larger than taming a few peak outbursts of anger.
• “Receive with meekness” – Meekness is power under control marked by humility.

Teaching Notes

 “The very fact that [God gets angry] tells us that anger can be utterly right, good, appropriate, beautiful, the only fair response to something evil, and the loving response on behalf of evil’s victims (p. 1).” David Powlison in Anger: Escaping the Maze

“Of the seven deadly sins, anger is probably the most fun. To lick your wounds, smack your lips over grievances long past, roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontation still to come, to savor to the last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back—is a feast fit for a king. The chief drawback is that what you are wolfing down is yourself. The skeleton at the feast is you.” Frederick Buechner in Untitled Newsletter Article

“Both revealing anger and concealing anger offend God and sabotage relationships, and call for specific biblical steps of correction and replacement (p. 79).” Robert Jones in Uprooting Anger

“We are the common element in all our communication problems (p. 40).” Paul Tripp in War of Words

“Suppression does not help anger to dissipate over time. Instead, anger turns into bitterness, hatred, and revengeful obsession. In fact, unresolved or denied anger can become a destructive force that can tear your life apart through depression, anxiety, paralyzing fear, physical ailments, or symptoms of post-traumatic stress (p. 125).” Justin & Lindsey Holcomb in Rid of My Disgrace