Archive for December, 2012

My Top 12 C.S. Lewis Posts of 2012

This posts takes a look back at my favorite posts from Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis this year. The series is up to 125 posts, with 50 of those coming in 2012. Include the quote by C.S. Lewis under each title, if you want to read the reflection / devotion, you can click the link.

C.S. Lewis, Moral Compound Interest, and Spiritual Warfare

“Good and evil both increase at compound interest. That is why the little decisions you and I make every day are of such infinite importance. The smallest good act today is the capture of a strategic point from which, a few months later, you may be able to go on to victories you never dreamed of. An apparently trivial indulgence in lust or anger today is the loss of a ridge or railway line or bridgehead from which the enemy may launch an attack otherwise impossible (p. 132).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis on Losing Faith

“Neither this belief nor any other will automatically remain alive in the mind. It must be fed. And as a matter of fact, if you examined a hundred people who had lost their faith in Christianity, I wonder how many of them would turn out to have been reasoned out of it by honest argument? Do not most people simply drift away? (p. 141).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis on Savoring Temporal Pleasures

“I must take care, on the one hand, never to despise, or be unthankful for, these earthly blessings, and on the other, never to mistake them for the something else of which they are only a kind of copy, or echo, or mirage (p. 137).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis on the Insult of Everything for Nothing

“If you like to put it that way, Christ offers something for nothing: He even offers everything for nothing. In a sense, the whole Christian life consists in accepting that very remarkable offer. But the difficulty is to reach the point of recognizing that all we have done and can do is nothing. What we should have liked would be for God to count our good points and ignore our bad ones (p. 147).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis Says, “Punt It”

“If this chapter means nothing to you, if it seems to be trying to answer questions you never asked, drop it at once. Do not bother about it at all… They are directions for dealing with particular crossroads and obstacles on the journey and they do not make sense until a man has reached those places. Whenever you find any statement in Christian writings which you can make nothing of, do not worry. Leave it alone (p. 144).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis on Sin’s Current

“No man knows how bad he is till he has tried very hard to be good. A silly idea is current that good people do not know what temptation means. This is an obvious lie. Only those who try to resist temptation know how strong it is. After all, you find out the strength of the German army by fighting against it, not by giving in. You find out the strength of a wind by trying to walk against it, not by lying down (p. 142).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

80’s Fashion Comeback, Old Theology, & Domestic Violence

“Consequently, if you do not listen to Theology, that will not mean that you have no ideas about God. It will mean that you have a lot of wrong ones—bad, muddled, out-of-date ideas. For a great many of the ideas about God which are trotted out as novelties today are simply the ones which real Theologians tried centuries ago and rejected. To believe in the popular religion of modern England is retrogression—like believing the earth is flat (p. 155).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis on Theology as Experience and Map

“If a man once looked at the Atlantic from the beach, and then goes and looks at a map of the Atlantic, he also will be turning from something real to something less real… The map is admittedly only colored paper, but there are two things you have to remember about it. In the first place, it is based upon what hundreds and thousands of people have found out by sailing the real Atlantic. In that way it has behind it masses of experience just as real as the one you could have from the beach; only, while yours would be a single glimpse, the map fits all those different experiences together. In the second place, if you want to go anywhere, the map is absolutely necessary. As long as you are content with walks on the beach your own glimpses are far more fun than looking at a map (p. 154).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis Says, “Good Advice Is Over-Rated”

“We never have followed the advice of the great teachers. Why are we likely to begin now? Why are we more likely to follow Christ than any of the others? Because He is the best moral teacher? But that makes it even less likely that we shall follow Him. If we cannot take the elementary lessons, is it likely we are going to take the most advanced ones? If Christianity only means one more bit of good advice, then Christianity is of no importance. There has been no lack of good advice for the last four thousand years. A bit more will make no difference. (p. 156).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis on a Community Vision for God

“God can show Himself as He really is only to real men. And that means not simply to men who are individually good, but to men who are united together in a body, loving one another, helping one another, showing Him to one another. For that is what God meant humanity to be like; like players in one band, or organs in one body. Consequently, the one really adequate instrument for learning about God is the whole Christian community, waiting for Him together (p. 165).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis on Bad Eggs

“It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad (p. 198-199).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis on God-Fatigue

“What we mean by ‘being good’ is giving ourselves to those claims [which interfere with our desires]. Some of the things our ordinary self wanted to do turn out to be what we call ‘wrong’: well, we must give them up. Other things, which the self did not want to do, turn out to be what we call ‘right’: well, we shall have to do them. But we are hoping all the time that when all the demands have been met, the poor natural self will still have some chance, to get on with his own life and do what it likes. In fact, we are very like an honest man paying his taxes. He pays them all right, but he does hope that there will be enough left over for him to live on. But we are still taking our natural self as the starting point… In the end, you will either give up trying to be good, or else become one of those people who, as they say, ‘live for others’ but always in a discontented, grumbling way  (p. 195-196).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

To see the first 100 posts in this series click here.

Job Description: Companion for Moms Grieving Miscarriage

The grief of losing an unborn or still born child is not only uniquely painful it is also uniquely lonely. At The Summit Church we want to help penetrate that loneliness with hope by being personally available. This is the purpose of the grieving mom companion program.

Qualifications for Companion: 

  • Be a covenant member of The Summit Church.
  • Have experienced the loss of a unborn child.
  • Able to talk about your loss openly and vulnerably without becoming emotionally overwhelmed.
  • Listened to the “Taking the Journey of Grief with Hope” seminar live or by video.
  • Read the “Taking the Journey of Grief with Hope” seminar notebook.
  • Understand what it means to allow the gospel to speak the emotions of grief as suffering not sin.

Expectations of Companion:

  • Complete an interview with our ministry coordinators (primary questions provided below).
  • Correspond with the freshly grieving mom within 24-48 hours of a match being made.
  • Meet with your freshly grieving mom in person at least every other week for the next six months.
  • Walk through the “Taking the Journey of Grief with Hope” seminar at her pace.
  • Share your testimony of your grief journey as it fits the materials and your freshly grieving mom’s situation.
  • Be available to correspond via phone or e-mail between in person meetings.
  • Help her decide what and how to share her experience with her small group (source of long term support).
  • Contact the ministry coordinator when a helping relationship is complete.

Questions to Assist Matching:

We want to make every effort pair companions with freshly grieving mothers who have elements of common experience. While we recognize that no two experiences are the same and even common details do not create the same experience, we do believe there is value in this effort. The questions below represent the kind of questions you will be asked in the interview.

  • How far into the pregnancy were you when you lost your baby? Did you know the gender?
  • Was this your first pregnancy? Second? Last?
  • Did the loss of your child alert you to problems of infertility?
  • Where there medical complications which caused or because of your miscarriage?
  • What was the response of other key people in your life to your loss?
  • Have you experienced the loss of multiple unborn children?
  • Did you already have a room prepared for your baby and have to deal with repurposing that room?
  • Did you have to share with a group of people (i.e., work, church) and experience a change in your social environment?

If there are other unique aspects to your loss you believe we should know, please bring these up in the interview. Thank you for your willingness to be a part of this ministry and to bring the embodied love of Christ to someone who feels very isolated by her loss.

Four Video Projects from 2012

One of the blessings of serving at a large church that allows me to focus my attention on developing a robust counseling ministry is the opportunity to create resources that can be duplicated in our church plants and churches across the country/world.

This year we were able to create three programmatic seminars and capture our counseling vision in video format.

The Summit Counseling Vision

This one hour presentation overviews (1) the challenges and opportunities facing The Summit counseling ministry; (2) the pieces of the summit counseling ministry and how they work together; and (3) explains the implications of our counseling model for individual counseling ministries.

False Love: Overcoming Sexual Sin from Pornography to Adultery

“False Love” contains three hours of presentation divided into a nine step model of overcoming sexual sin. Sexual sin is examined from private lust to adultery in marriage. This seminar is most effective when studies with a friend our small group.

True Betrayal: Overcoming the Betrayal of Your Spouse’s Sexual Sin

“True Betrayal” contains three hours of presentation divided into a nine step model of responding to the suffering created by a spouse’s sexual sin. Practical guidance is provided for this difficult and often isolating journey. This seminar is most effective when studies with a friend our small group.

Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Foundations

Why is marriage hard? Why do so many marriages that begin in sincere love end in divorce? What are the essential things a couple should focus on to have a marriage that flourishes? What is a covenant and why is marriage a covenant? Why do we have a marriage ceremony? What are the roles for a Christian husband and wife? What if I don’t “fit” or like the masculine-feminine stereotypes or don’t have the personality to match a “traditional” husband/wife?

In the next year I would appreciate your prayers as we aim to complete the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage” seminar series by addressing the subjects of communication, finances, decision making, and intimacy. Keep your eye out for those resources as they are developed.

C.S. Lewis on Bad Eggs

A Counselor Reflects on Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

“It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad (p. 198-199).” Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

It may be hard for a boy to become man. It may be hard for a student to become a teacher. It may be hard for a convert to become a missionary. It may be hard for a sinner to become a saint. When we begin a sentence with, “It may be hard for a…” we often get distracted from the question, “Is it necessary?”

That is the point to which Lewis is returning our attention.

What happens when an egg fails to become a bird, a boy fails to become a man, a students fails to become a teacher, a convert does not become a missionary, or a sinner does not become a saint? The glory of God’s creation rots in stagnation to the destruction of His worship and our good.

The call of God upon an egg is, “Change or perish.” Is this because God hates eggs? No. God loves eggs and wants there to be more eggs. In order for this to happen each generation of eggs must resist the temptation to be lazy, and instead become birds. As birds, every egg will multiply itself many times over.

What is the call of God upon every person? “Change or perish.” Is this because God is mean? No. God loves people and wants boys to have fathers and students to have teachers. Ultimately, God wants every lost person to have a missionary and every convert to have a discipler.

In order for this to happen each generation of people must resist the temptation to be lazy and mature in their walk with Christ. As this happens, every Christian should multiply him/herself many times over.

What is the alternative? Is it possible to go on being an egg? No. Good eggs have a lifespan. If they delay they can no longer be a “good egg.” They become good for nothing; life or food.

Similarly, adolescence has a life span. Immaturity in children is cute; in adults, it is offensive and condemnable. They can no longer be called a “good person,” innocent, or merely uninformed. They become a drain on everyone who cares for them.

What about a Christian? The Bible speaks clearly to this in Hebrews 5:11-6:6.

About this we have much to say, and it is hard to explain, since you have become dull of hearing. For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you again the basic principles of the oracles of God. You need milk, not solid food, for everyone who lives on milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness, since he is a child. But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil. Therefore let us leave the elementary doctrine of Christ and go on to maturity, not laying again a foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God, and of instruction about washings, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment. And this we will do if God permits. For it is impossible, in the case of those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, and have shared in the Holy Spirit, and have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the age to come, and then have fallen away, to restore them again to repentance, since they are crucifying once again the Son of God to their own harm and holding him up to contempt.

If you read this passage and worry about your salvation, that is like asking how much longer you can be a “good egg” before you turn into a “bad egg.” Even if you get an answer, it doesn’t help you become a bird. It merely distracts you, and, thereby, keeps you in the nest.

Whether you are a boy needing to become a man, a convert needing to be a missionary, or a sinner needing to become a saint, take the warning and stop asking questions that keep you passive (another word for immaturity). Give yourself fully to God, His Word, and His people and grow.

My Top 12 Blog Posts of 2012

This posts takes a look back at my favorite posts from this year. These are the posts, that as I reviewed through my archives, I remembered most clearly. It may be the memory that inspired the post or the conversations that ensued afterwards, but either way these are the ones that stood out to me.

  1. The Myth of Compatibility — Too often we treat compatibility as if were a noun instead of a verb. Character is a better predictor of marital success than personality cohesion.
  2. When the Holy Spirit Prays for You — Too often we try to comfort people who are suffering with Romans 8:28 without taking on the journey of verses 25-27.
  3. The Sacred “Silly” Moments of Marriage — This is a call to pay attention to how “compliments” do more than just encourage your spouse.
  4. Feel Awkward Being Expressive in Worship? Me Too — Here I reflect on the self-preoccupation of being expressive in worship distracts me from the freedom God wants to give through worship.
  5. God’s Words for “Bouncy” Anxiety — This posts looks at how Psalm 121 is a gift from God for those whose fears bounce from one thing to the next.
  6. Prayer and Talking to My Children — This was a great time of remembering that God enjoys listening to His children as much as (probably more than) I enjoy listening to my children.
  7. You Don’t Know “The Real Me” — I was struck by how sin-kept-secret could so powerfully cut people off from meaningful relationships even from people who really loved them.
  8. On Counseling and Comedy — Find out if you agree with my assessment that young counselors and young comedians wrestle with the same tactical error.
  9. The Difference Between Guilt, Shame and Regret — These three powerful emotions/experiences are often used as synonyms, but when it comes to applying the gospel we need to know the difference.
  10. Poetry Slam on Same Sex Attraction and Childhood Sexual Abuse — My reflections on a powerful 9 minute testimony of God’s restorative power in poetry form.
  11. Learning to Doubt Our Fears — I was struck by the realization that when we are afraid the only thing we do not doubt is our fears.
  12. Three Family Posts (Yes, I admit I’m cheating).
    1. Special Trip III: Youngest Son Goes to Kindergarten — The story of the right of passage trip I took with my youngest son. Great memories!
    2. Why We Do “Chili Cheese Dog Adventures” — An innovative approach helping our boys adapt to a move that has turned into a family tradition.
    3. Three Letters I Write Every Year — A romantic exercise I realized was enriching my life as much as my wife’s.

Tuesday Tweets of the Week: 12.25.12

There is value in saying something in a memorable, concise manner. Twitter has caused us to make this a near spiritual discipline. For my own growth (as a generally verbose individual) and for the benefit of others, I highlight tweets each week that deliver a big message in a few words.

And one because its funny:

Hambrick Family Christmas Letter 2012

Dear Friends,

Seems like I was just writing the 2011 version of this letter. But while the time has passed quickly, much has happened to update our friends and family about.  This was our first full year settled in our new house. After not decorating for Christmas in 2010 because of our holiday move, the boys responded to our Christmas decorations like they’d never seen them. It was almost enough to make me look forward to all of the work of putting them out this year #bahumbug.

Marshall has started kindergarten and absolutely loves it. Our formerly “silent child” chatters up a storm and is excited about getting to do homework every night. I thought that would have wore off by now, but I’m not complaining. We took a “right of passage” trip in August to make starting school feel more special (story and pictures at link). By his request we climbed a mountain and then walked under the ocean.

Lawson is growing in his love for sports and adventure. We went to Disney this summer and he caught the roller coaster bug. I think we will be taking several trips to amusement parks in the coming years. Our coach-pitch baseball team this Fall was a perfect 9-0, and Lawson is already talking about the Spring season. To help the boys bond with our new city, we’ve started an expedition of visiting all the chili cheese dogs joints in RDU (story and pictures at link).

Sallie couldn’t stand having free time with Marshall in school so she has started substitute teaching at the boys school, created a small “design on a dime” decorating business, and launched a small group for single young professional women at our church. She has painted every room in our home since we moved in last June (badly needed since it was a highly distressed seller house).

Brad has had no problem staying busy between his role at Summit ( and Southeastern ( His first two booklets were published this year and he has three more publications coming out this year ( including being a featured counselor in the new DivorceCare product line. Brad is creating a series of marriage seminars for our church “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage” (posted at link).

Over the next year we would appreciate your prayers that we will (1) fully enjoy this sweet season when our boys are young and lay a good foundation for their future, (2) prioritize marriage and family during a very busy season of life and ministry, and (3) grow in our trust in God’s character and effectiveness at sharing His hope with others.

We want to thank you for your friendship and the unique role you have played in the life our family. Our prayer is that this Christmas you will experience the power, peace, and joy of Immanuel – God with us (Matthew 1:23) – and have opportunity to multiply the experience of that hope by sharing it with others.

Merry Christmas!
The Hambrick Family

P.S. For an idea of how to teach your children the real meaning of Christmas, check out this article.

Memorial Ceremony for an Unborn Child

Grieving the loss of an unborn child can be particularly difficult. No one else had the privilege of knowing your baby and, therefore, many of the rituals of grief (i.e., sharing pictures or stories of how the lost loved one touched other’s lives) cannot be engaged. Because no one else knew their baby, parents often try to take this journey of grief alone.

What follows are suggestions for how to honor your lost child and facilitate your own grieving process. Do not consider this appendix to be a recipe to be followed directly, but as a collection of ideas to take what best applies to your situation. Some families who lose their baby may chose not to utilize a service like this one. A small group or church family should be considerate of the family’s wishes when offering to help in this way.

The suggestions recommended below will be incorporated in the memorial service outlined at the end of this appendix.

Name Your Baby: This will be important for not only the memorial, but for the on-going grief process. This will allow you to reference your child in future conversations (which is healthy). Without a name, you and others will be more likely to begin to live as if the loss never happened within a matter of weeks. Parents may change the name they intended to call their child without feeling as they are dishonoring their baby. The goal in naming the baby is to accept the loss as real, not to say that nothing has or can change.

Write a Good-Bye Letter: With many losses we see death coming and get to say good-bye. With miscarriage there is both surprise and your child would not have been able to hear your words. A letter allows you to put your initial grief into words which can be heard by family and friends at the memorial. It allows you to process these early experiences of your grief and to feel more understood.

Memorial Box: This is not a casket, but a place to keep some precious things (i.e., blanket, small toys, birth/death certificates, ultra sound pictures, good-bye letter, notes from friends, your grief journal, etc…). A memorial box can allow your child to always have a place of remembrance in your home without the “enshrinement effect” that comes with having a room devoted to your lost child.

Get a Grief Journal: You will have many thoughts and experience many emotions in the coming months. You may fear forgetting what you are thinking and feeling, because it is all you have left of your baby. A journal is a healthy place to capture those thoughts and emotions. One option many mothers have found helpful is Mommy, Please Don’t Cry by Linda DeYmaz. This journal also serves as a place to gather your thoughts so that you have an answer when friends, family, or small group members ask, “How are you doing?”

Don’t Rush the Memorial: Planning and conducting the memorial is an important part of the grieving process. It confirms that this is a real loss, one to be acknowledged by those who love you, and that there is a journey of grief ahead. It is during the planning and conducting of a memorial that denial can wear off and a network of friends be established to support you in the weeks and months ahead.

Plant a Tree / Garden: Often with a miscarriage one of the difficulties in the grief process is that there is nowhere to go and grieve or to place flowers on your child’s birthday and other special occasions. Planting a tree can provide you a place to go and remember. It also provides a visual reminder of the passing of time and personal growth as you see the tree mature. If a family chooses to plant a tree or garden, this would determine the location of the ceremony and would need to be in a place where the property would not be sold or outside a home from which the family planned to move.

Create a Time Capsule: It can make the memorial seem more like a real funeral if there is something to bury. With the planting of a tree, you might also bury a time capsule with a copy of your good-bye letter, toys you had purchased, medical bracelets/papers from the DNC visit, a list of the dreams for this child you are surrendering to God, or other memorable items.

For the rest of this article and ceremony click here: Memorial Ceremony for an Unborn Child

This resource is taken from the upcoming seminar:

Part One:  Saturday December 8, 2012
Part Two: Saturday December 15, 2012
Time: 4:00 to 5:30 pm or 6:00 to 7:30 pm
Location: The Summit Church, Brier Creek South Venue
Address: 2415-107 Presidential Drive; Durham, NC 27703
Cost: Free

Two Major Church Resources from 2012

With a blog title like “A Blog from a Counselor for the Church,” one of my goals is to produce resources that benefit the local church — pastors, elders, counselors, deacons, small groups, and one another life. This year I think there were two large projects that did this in a unique way.

When Prevention Fails: A Sexual Abuse Response Policy for Churches

Every church ought to have the best possible sexual abuse prevention policies in their children’s ministry. These should be followed closely and reviewed regularly. But what happens when evil slips through the cracks of even the best policies and procedures? How does the church respond then? How should the church care for the victim, the victim’s parents, the alleged perpetrator, and cooperate with the legal authorities?

What is most frightening is that by the time a child molester gets caught he/she has on average 50-100 victims. How does the church find and care for the other children who have likely been abused? How does the church communicate with its people, community, and media who all want answers when these tragedies occur?

How is the situation different when the sexual abuse is by a minor against a minor instead of by an adult against a minor?

These are sickening questions. Unfortunately, they are so uncomfortable that most churches have not attempted to answer them. These questions go on the list of policies every church needs and no church has.

To read this sample policy click here.

Marriage with a Chronically Self-Centered Spouse

We are all married to a self-centered spouse. That is what it means for us to be fallen people who are bound to experience life from within our bodies. But there are cases where this “general self-centeredness” becomes chronic — severe to a point that it either results in a marital environment of abuse or neglect.

Scripture speaks to both “garden variety” marriage struggles and chronic self-centered marriage struggles, but it speaks to these varying degrees of struggles in different ways. This is no different from saying that Scripture speaks to both impulse control and addiction, but speaks to them differently.

However, Christians have not always done a good job of assessing the differences in these marriage situations and defining the approaches that need to be taken.  Working from Jesus’ words in Matthew 7:1-6 (utilizing his instruction in verse 6 as applying to cases of chronic relational offense) we will examine the subject of “Marriage with a Chronically Self-Centered Spouse” in 18 posts.

For links to this entire series click here.

Neuro-Psychology and Emotional Intelligence

Recently I have been listening to lectures from some of the neighbors to biblical counseling. These have involved two course length series in neuro-psychology and one in emotional intelligence theory (yes, I admit to being a nerd who thoroughly enjoys these things).

One of the benefits, that had little to do with counseling, was to learn from professors who mastered both their content and presentation. The quality of the lectures (structure, illustration, and presentation) were excellent. There was much to learn from their teaching style and quality.

But in this post I’d like to try to mesh a major teaching point from each field of study with biblical counseling.

First, from  both of the courses on neuro-psychology I learned (summarized):

Many of the same neurotransmitters are involved in multiple emotions. Dopamine, serotonin, and other brain chemicals are involved in emotions as different as depression, anxiety, and joy.

Second, from the course on emotional intelligence I learned (summarized):

The physiological symptoms on different emotions are often the same (accelerated heart rate, sweaty skin, dilated pupils, increased rate of thinking, etc…) and yet we experience different emotions (fear, anticipation, excitement) based upon our interpretation of the triggering event.

My apologies for reducing lengthy lectures into a couple of sentences, but I found both of these statements intriguing – especially when the two are considered together.

In light of this, I would conclude:

While brain chemistry and physiology definitely impact emotions, there is something the person (i.e., soul, mind, will, the “voice in our head,” etc…) is doing which determines the significance of either. If the same brain chemistry can produce different emotions and the same body changes can be interpreted as different emotions, then there is something the person adds to the experience of emotion than cannot be reduced to our physical body.

For those who think this is going to transition into a pro/con position on psychiatric medications, I don’t believe these points (or anything else I learned in these courses) determine whether medication is a wise choice for any given individual in his/her circumstances.

But the point that does seem clear is this – the voice in our head determines to some significant degree how we respond to the chemicals in our brain and the changes in our body. By the way, we should also acknowledge the chemicals in our brain and changes in our body affect the voice in our head.

So what do we do with this? With the acknowledgement that “three courses does not an expert make” and that my counseling bias is revealed, I will make three proposals of very day-to-day significance.

  1. We need to see the significance of our interpretations – whether we grumble or encourage is likely to greatly change our brain chemistry and physiology.
  2. We marvel at how robust a life experience God provides in our bodies – it appears we have a greater breadth of emotional-relational experience than we have physical determinants.
  3. We need to become excellent stewards of our bodies (sleep, diet, exercise, etc…; all of which significantly affect brain chemistry and physiology) in order to prevent our soul from being unnecessarily challenged.

If this post was beneficial for you, then considering reading other blogs from my “Favorite Posts on Counseling Theory” post which address other facets of this subject.